Augie and Merissa have been dating for seven-and-a-half years. They met while taking the same financial accounting class at a relatively small, rural, private liberal arts college located in the far Western part of the U.S. While they were in actual fact good pals at first, they eventually began dating when they were in their second year of college.
Given the fact that both of them came from very conventional backgrounds, neither one of them drank much beyond the testing stage when they first started to date. As the time progressed, however, they started to go to more keg parties, sorority and fraternity parties, football bashes, and happy hours. As a consequence, they in a step-by-step fashion began to drink increasingly more as they proceeded in their relationship.
Their Social Life As a Rule Consisted of Going to Happy Hour With Their Friends, Going to Professional Sporting Events, Going to Parties With Their Friends, Going to Restaurants Three or Four Nights Per Week, and Going With Their Friends to the Local Bar on the Weekends
After they graduated, they both found employment in a relatively small city located nearly ninety miles from their undergraduate college. Then they eventually made up their mind to move into the same apartment together.
Since they were far removed from the college drinking scene, nonetheless, their social life frequently consisted of going to restaurants three or four nights per week, going to parties with their friends, going to happy hour with their friends, going to professional sporting events, and going to the local disco with their pals on the weekends. To come to the point, Augie and Merissa began drinking in an irresponsible manner.
Now that were living with one another and starting to get more resolute about their relationship, nonetheless, they began to think about buying a house, getting married, becoming more responsible, and having children.
With any major change in an individual’s life there is commonly something that starts the particular transformation in question. For Merissa and Augie the notion of having children and buying a new house was this “catalyst.” To come to the point, for the first time in their lives, Augie and Merissa started to critically review their abusive and hazardous drinking and the long term effects of alcohol on their health.
How Would Their Irresponsible and Excessive Drinking Affect Their Ability to Have Children, Their Relationship With One Another, Their Relationship With Their Parents, Their Mental Health, and Their Finances?
Would their heavy and hazardous drinking unfavorably affect their ability to have children? How would they be able to continue spending so much money on drinking if they were to start saving for a new house? How adult-like would they be if they had children and continued to drink in a hazardous and irresponsible manner? How would they be able to face their parents and tell them about their long term plans, hopes, and dreams while they still drank in an excessive and abusive manner while having fun as they did when they were in college? What would their excessive and abusive drinking do to their relationship? How would their heavy and hazardous drinking affect their mental health?
From a different line of reasoning, although neither one of them ever suffered from alcohol poisoning, received a DUI, or experienced alcohol withdrawals, they realized that their hazardous drinking was becoming a thorny issue that they could not turn their backs on anymore.
After Giving Their Situation Much Thought, Augie and Merissa Grasped the Fact That Their Dreams, Aspirations, and Goals Would not be Fulfilled if They Continued Their Heavy and Hazardous Drinking
All of these uncertainties undeniably resulted in the same conclusion: Augie and Merissa needed to understand that they couldn’t continue their hazardous drinking if their aspirations, hopes, and dreams were to be realized.
Once they settled upon this conclusion, they notified their drinking buddies about their plans to start a family, about their marital plans, and about their goal of buying or building a new house. They also told their drinking friends that they still wanted to associate with them but that they would be drinking responsibly from this point forward so that they could start realizing their future goals, aspirations, and dreams.
Surprisingly, all of their friends expressed relief because they too had been reassessing their lives and concluded that their life-styles were much too often focused on drinking. They also understood that they would have to change extensively if they were to become more adult-like and exhibit more concern for their careers, their health, and for their plans in the next fifteen or twenty years.
After their frank discussion with their friends about their dreams, hopes, and aspirations, Augie and Merissa in essence started to have more meaningful relationships with all of their friends and they experienced an augmented sense of self esteem. The main reason for this was the fact that all of them had a similar outlook regarding their hazardous and abusive drinking and their short and long-term goals, aspirations, and plans.
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